To The Woman Who Adopted My Baby

A few months ago I did a guest blog post for America Adopts and I wanted to share it here. Maybe you know someone who has adopted that can be encouraged by this.

To The Woman Who Adopted My Baby,

Not every woman is as brave as you. You had the courage to put your trust and hopes in me, when I was just a teenager who you barely knew.

While I carried the baby, you stood close by; a supporting spectator, surely wondering if I’d follow through on our agreement.

You had the courage to put all your cards on the table with no guarantee on my part.

You had the courage to risk having your heart broken. You are brave.

For a brief period you needed me. You needed me to take on a healthy lifestyle, to eat right and get exercise.

You needed me to take extra care, as I was holding precious cargo.

But I wonder if it ever crossed your mind—and you may not have realized this yet—but I needed you too.


I needed a woman who could do what I couldn’t. I needed a woman who could provide the comfort and stability I was not yet ready to offer.

I needed a woman who could love, not based on a bond of blood, but rather a bond of dreams fulfilled.

I needed you.

You wanted to be present for all of it. To be there every step of the way: the doctor’s visits, the ultrasounds, the delivery.

You were there for me.

For that reason, I knew you’d be there for her too. I knew you’d be present when she took her first steps, when she lost her first tooth, and when she had her first crush.

I knew you’d delight in every milestone, deeply thankful in your heart for the privilege of raising such an amazing girl.

I want to thank you for being the mother she deserves. Kind, patient, ready and willing to give your love away.

I want to thank you for making it so easy to entrust another with such a precious gift.

I’ve never had to worry about her well-being or her future. They have become your priorities because you chose to make them so.

Despite the difficulties I faced, you have given me a freedom to move forward. To not doubt my decision. I am certain that while God let me grow her, He chose you to raise her.

I want to thank you for opening your heart and home.

I want to thank you for taking on such a high calling.

I want to thank you for adopting my baby, for making her a part of your family. It means more than you’ll ever know.


2 Comments Add yours

  1. Lorelei Fray says:

    Well spoken!!!

    Liked by 1 person

  2. Ashlee says:

    Dear Amanda,

    My name is Ashlee. I’m co-founder of the Youshare Project, with the mission to connect people around the world through true, personal stories about life-shaping events and experiences. I recently stumbled across your blog and read the above post entitled “To The Woman Who Adopted My Baby.” It’s beautifully written and very compelling. I think it would make a wonderful youshare, and I’d like to invite you to submit it to the website.

    If this sounds interesting to you, I would love to email you directly with more information and formally invite you to share your story with the project. You have my email address and website. I hope to hear from you soon.



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